Loosing members from the forum!

[PMC]

G'day folks,

I am really sad today because we are going to lose two really good forum members. I have had several phone conversations with these great people and they are frustrated about certain member’s attitudes.

The forum, or any forum, should be about imparting knowledge, assistance and hopefully forming camaraderie to its members. However, it should not be a place where individuals try to dominate it as their own personal playground.

I have seen the same issues with other forums when great people have left because certain individual members have been over powering. This then causes the particular forum to turn to shite, moral teeters, good members leave, and then finally sponsors leave creating an empty shell of a place.

The most damaging issues in any group environment ie, forums, clubs even the workplace is personalities and how to control them properly without offending others. It is always the little things that cause all the major problems in life and forums are no different.

PS, I hope the two forum members please reconsider about leaving.

Kind regards,

RLI

[AB]

I hope the two members reconsider as well but I am also struggling to find out exactly what has happened that led to their decision?

I'm also struggling to find any wrong attitudes on here and I have not been alerted to any wrong doings either by anyone so what exactly is going on, unfortunately I cannot see an issue straight in front of me so what exactly am I missing here?

What do you mean by should not be a place where individuals try to dominate it as their own personal playground? What do you mean by domination? Do you mean some people posting a lot on the forum or an attitude of bullying by someone?

Excuse my ignorance Pauly, I really have no idea how some certain people have come to this and I would really like to know exactly why?



I'm really struggling to see who is overpowering who and how they are doing this????

[Bluecrab]

Ive found this forum welcoming and very helpful. Advice is free, take it or not.
cheers Daz

[the evil twin]

I hope the two members reconsider as well but I am also struggling to find out exactly what has happened that led to their decision?

I'm also struggling to find any wrong attitudes on here and I have not been alerted to any wrong doings either by anyone so what exactly is going on, unfortunately I cannot see an issue straight in front of me so what exactly am I missing here?

What do you mean by should not be a place where individuals try to dominate it as their own personal playground? What do you mean by domination? Do you mean some people posting a lot on the forum or an attitude of bullying by someone?

Excuse my ignorance Pauly, I really have no idea how some certain people have come to this and I would really like to know exactly why?



I'm really struggling to see who is overpowering who and how they are doing this????

Best of luck AB... and I mean that sincerely not as sarcasm. It's a Forum and will never be Utopian so you will go batshit crazy trying to sort out who got up whose nose and why without first hand complaints/whinges/comments or whatever.

Yes, it is hurtful and yes it is horrible losing members who feel they have been disenfranchised be that real or imagined.

I am adamant IMHO that this is easily one of the best Forums around with a great culture BUT there will always be something happens that pisses off somebody and the odds of that happening are proportional to the number of members and the forum activity. Given the health of those two characteristics here it is almost inevitable.

Bottom line remains that it is obviously better for everyone if we can retain valued members if at all possible so I hope indeed that the members to which RLI is in contact don't leave.

[Bloodyaussie]

Oh for crying out loud.... really!!!!!

School was out years ago and if you cant handle this place what hope for the rest of the world!!!!

I don't care if it is someone I know and am friendly with but I am sick of the little whispers about who doesn't like who... for crying out loud you don't have to play together.

Life is hard enough...............

[BillsGU]

What?? You have got to be kidding!? As a long standing member of this excellent forum I have never commented on behaviour or such - but this has to be a joke. I am going through this problem at the moment with my grand daughter and facebook. I am trying to explain to her how to treat people and how to manage situations that she doesn't agree with or finds it difficult to cope with. I did not for a minute think that this sort of situation would arise on a forum such as this that is supported by adults and well moderated. I have two things to say to those wishing to depart. Have a good think about it before you go, and; if you do go - it's your loss.

[the ferret]

This is sad news.
Cheers, the ferret.

[lucus30]

Where is the unlike button ?

[04OFF]

As far as im concerned, we have already lost some great members, some are still actual members, but are not active in posting like when i first joined, for me personally this has effected the tone of the place.

There has also been some great new people joined, who now post on a regular basis.




People will come and people will go, the forum can't please everyone all of the time, and as it grows it changes, so just as i have done, the people on here must learnt to adapt, or simply move on.



I can not recall reading any posts/threads from my early membership days that annoyed me, these days there is plenty of comments/threads all over the forum that annoy me, but just as i change TV stations when i don't like what i see, i just try and do the same on here and switch threads. (its not "that" hard to do)






Some of my favorite people ive met in person has been 100% through this place, and its has, and still does, allow me to meet great people, as well as organise/join some great trips, so while this continues, im proud to be part of with whatever creature the forum morphs into......

[Ben-e-boy]

Paul.

I know the reason behind one of the members, I could have been prevented if something was said about it

THERE IS NO USE LETTING IT SLIDE AND HAVING IT BEAT YOU UP UNTIL YOUR VAGINA IS SO FULL OF SAND YOU WANT TO EXPLODE.

Pull them up on it diplomaticly. If they fire back by all means fire away.

It is threads like this that have driven away good members......more than 2....good members.....and when you come my way you could meet at least a dozen of them.