Ive only got a 2 inch lift (3 inch shocks) and having same issue, ive snapped links, one standard sway bar in half, and just last weekend did same as you ......

"ripped the mounting hoop from sway bar to diff. Snapped the bolt and bent the hoop"

And yes have also done same as you ..... "I have tried adjusting the sway bar so the arm is level"


I also want sway bars fitted for road use, and i thought about disconnects for the rear, but i honestly think the patrol suspension works better off road with the rear sway bar connected, it forces the front to work much better IMO.








Thing going through my head, is do we need extended bump stops for the rear, and will this help ?