I feel for your mate.
And I'm really sorry about your uncle.
We are all human, we do break down at times. challenges and stresses of everyday life can
accumulate over time to depression.
As a long time sufferer of PTSD, I do know how difficult it is to cope with depression.
You couldn't be in a better place to discuss these personal demons that we all deal with onetime or more in our life.
Some of us struggle with depression, throughout our everyday life, and that is even harder.
And you couldn't have picked up a better hobby to get away from unwanted demons in life.
Getting into fourby's actually saved my life, even though my SWMBO says I take silly risks going solo most of the time.
There's nothing like being in the middle of a nature reserve where you can close your eyes and listen to the music of trees, birds and the wind. I do meditate on it at times.
If I've interpreted your nickname correctly, you'll do a better job at bouncing back to full spirit and joy in no time, than anybody I know, including myself.
I agree with you totally, friends(or family) don't understand most of the time. They do the best they can, I think.
Fact is that they aren't the best people to talk about your most inner personal issues at many times.
Just being close make it difficult for them to understand, simply because they already have formed a rigid picture about who you are by being close to you and have trouble stepping down of that picture to see you from distance, as a human being, not as an uncle, dad, brother, son, etc. A humanistic therapist can do a better job in that case.
I myself, talk to my cat sometime( weird thing to do), even though I know she hasn't gota clue what I'm talking about.
Dogs are even better. When there's nobody around, start talking to the bastard and see how he's staring at your and trying his best to understand you. Even though they can't understand you verbally, they can feel you better than another human being in many occasions, and I'm not kidding about it. This is why we have cats and dogs as part of our family, not monkeys.
If you are into reading, I would love to recommend you a book that affected me positively.
"The Power of Now" Author - Eckhart Tolle
It's about spirituality and deals a lot with 'real' cause of depression, and pretty simple book to read.
It's not a religious book. Eckhart Tolle suffered suicidal depression all his life, until he found a 'cure'.
Take care mate.
P.S. You can borrow it from library or I can send a pdf copy. I read books,magazines on my tablet(pdf format). find it lot easier.
P.S. While you having cuppa, think over and over about "Cuppa"s advice. He's more qualified than anybody to give you sound advice.
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