What do you do when your mate is doing it tough?

[AB]

I have a good friend who is doing it tough....Seriously tough.

Went out on his own a few years ago and can't keep up with his finances. wife and kid. Not that a lot of us a living the life but a lot worse then most of us!

Like most of us he is a proud person and doesn't want charity. Their house is freezing with no heating and I want to bring a trailer of wood down but that will piss him off I'm sure.

I texted him saying to come up anytime for wood and grab whatever. He said thanks and he will come up this weekend hopefully....Obviously I will spend a day splitting it for him if he shows up.

He has a suburban block and I have enough wood to throw a stick at...LMAO...Get it...Throw a stick at....Anyways...

This is a go nowhere post but any ideas on how to help a good mate out who is struggling to make ends meet in a bad way who is stubborn like me and a proud person like most of us and doesn't want charity??? Any sneaky ideas or suggestions???

[Silver]

better to be warm and p1ssed off than cold and p1ssed off, esp the kid.

[AB]

better to be warm and p1ssed off than cold and p1ssed off, esp the kid.

I'm thinking of rocking up there when they are not home and dumping some split wood. The house has no insulation in the walls and only that stupid government grant rebate roof bats which burnt half of Melbourne's homes down. It's a seriously cold home. Like an esky!

He'll know It's me and he'll be pissed but warm like you said!

[NissanGQ4.2]

Tell him the wood is not for him cause he is a stubborn b!stard, the wood is for the wife and kid

[nissannewby]

Whats he do? you could recommend his services to others help him pull in business etc

[Maxhead]

I have a good friend who is doing it tough....Seriously tough.

Went out on his own a few years ago and can't keep up with his finances. wife and kid. Not that a lot of us a living the life but a lot worse then most of us!

Like most of us he is a proud person and doesn't want charity. Their house is freezing with no heating and I want to bring a trailer of wood down but that will piss him off I'm sure.

I texted him saying to come up anytime for wood and grab whatever. He said thanks and he will come up this weekend hopefully....Obviously I will spend a day splitting it for him if he shows up.

He has a suburban block and I have enough wood to throw a stick at...LMAO...Get it...Throw a stick at....Anyways...

This is a go nowhere post but any ideas on how to help a good mate out who is struggling to make ends meet in a bad way who is stubborn like me and a proud person like most of us and doesn't want charity??? Any sneaky ideas or suggestions???

Couple of things mate.

I think you need to look at the bigger picture here mate.

Wood, yes you can warm him up for a while but it will not help him long term. Like the old story "Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime"

Do you know why he is struggling, this is the first thing you need to find out.

ex. his job is not paying enough. Help to find him a better career or help him to better his buisness

Hard to write all this but there is a way mate and it wont be to hard to help him out, just need to look at why he is struggling and then help but from a bigger picture prospective.

Hope this makes sense.

[the ferret]

You have good values Andy, and I'm sorry your mate is having a hard time, but forget him, he's obviously a loser!!'
Just Kidd'n mate, Just go and cut a trailer load, take it there and tip it off, even stack it in the shed, take a bag of spuds and a few vege's while yer at it.
He is obviously a good friend, they are hard to come by, if he's home when you get there and stacks on a show, just say" I love you mate" no sweat.
That's the Aussie way.
There are people in this world who can't make things work, no matter how hard they try, THAT, is what friends are for.
You are HIS friend and if you had fallen on hard times as sometimes we do, he would do the same and you would probably say "don't need your charity" but you do.
Cheers, Rod.

[DX grunt]

Personal story here........

It's harder to receive than give.

True story for many of us. Think about it.

Many many years ago, my wife, our 4 young kids and me, went through a really hard time. One day, our church pastor arrived on our doorstep with a food parcel.

I should have been glad and thankful, but I was devastated. I felt so low that I could have crawled under a pregnant ant. Words fail me on how I initially felt.

I never told anybody we were going through a hard time - but my pastor knew!

From that experience I learnt that it is a good thing to receive, and that I didn't have to keep giving and giving and giving.

It was a very humbling experience indeed and I'll never forget it. Something happened inside me that broke my pride - in a healthy way.

I don't have any issues now with receiving or accepting.

I hope my true story helps at least one person or one family.

Take care out there.

Rossco

[megatexture]

I’d just dump a load there and tell him you were as stubborn as him and didn’t listen that he said he didn’t want it . though you could say if he’s not wanting hand outs tell him to mow your lawn to repay you haha and your both happy!

[Clunk]

Agree with the others mate, there's probably been a time in most of our lives where a little help was required. Im a stubborn buggah too that has had to learn to accept that I can't always do everything myself . Just drop a load down to him mate and if he arks up just tell him next lot he chops himself