Yeah very very sorry to hear of the worst outcome John. Thoughts are with you and the family mate. Whatever you need, if anything were here and you got my number too.
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Yeah very very sorry to hear of the worst outcome John. Thoughts are with you and the family mate. Whatever you need, if anything were here and you got my number too.
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Oh bollocks!
Better to know than to not know, but nobody deserves that sort of news. Condolences to you & Lily TD - find a way forward together.
Heartbreaking to hear your news John mate. As others have said our phones are on 24/7 if ever you need to talk mate.
Sorry to hear the bad news about your son Td condolences to you and your family mate
Haven't been on here for awhile dealing with some family issues myself :(
I think my heart just stoppedQuote:
Originally Posted by threedogs
Mate that's so so sad.
I had to bury my grandpa when I was 15. He was only 62, but I can not begin to fathom having to say good by to your own child..
My guts just turned and now I'm in tears..
Thoughts are with you and the whole family John.
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our thoughts and prayers are with you on these dark days
things will start to brighten up for you
best wishes stephen and family
wife just got a phone call from son living in brisbane
mum please help something is wrong with me can you come on the next plane i need you
every thing dropped within 3 hours on plane
straight to doctor and he has seveere depresion and contacts his work /they are very concerned also
wife will stay in brisbane for a while till things settle down
maybe he can get transferr to adelaide and have the support of the family as there is no one up there for him
Sad to hear John.
Try to keep your chin up
Shocking news John, condolences to you and your family mate
Sad, sad news TD. Lost a younger brother nearly forty years back, saw the light in the parents eyes dim a little then.
I have the greatest empathy for the heartache of your loss.
Sincere condolences to you and your family, John.
Take care out there.
Love to all.
Rossco
First off thanks all heaps it really does mean a lot.
I couldnt bring myself to tell Lily, I just dont know
how to do that, I just cant do it sorry
Very sorry to hear TD...
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I know it's hard TD but better it comes from you now that you know , unless you can get the police who are trained to pass on the bad news to pay a visit when you and your wife are at home .Quote:
Originally Posted by threedogs
Lost a sister years ago when I was working away , supposedly suicide but the bruises told a different story , was a cranky individual then and had a phone call from the local cops not to come down for the funeral , for me looking back it was a good idea because I don't know what I would have done to the prick .
Mate I'm no expert in these matters, but try and tell Lily, as it could well be the start of the healing process for both of you. You need to do this together.Quote:
Originally Posted by threedogs
I'm with Above John. Best tell Lily.
I think it'll be the best for both of you and although its not what we all wanted, it'll bring closure.
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Mate you must talk to your wife if they asked her for her DNAQuote:
Originally Posted by threedogs
Lily will be wondering why please John talk to her and tell her the truth
Hope it all works out SteveQuote:
Originally Posted by my third 256
@threedogs mate i havent any words?
Hope it goes well for your son and family mate all the bestQuote:
Originally Posted by my third 256
Lily has already given a DNA sample as the mother is the best source.
Does she know yet TD ?
Haven't been officially told but not hard to put 2 and 2 togetherQuote:
Originally Posted by GQtdauto
we are a close family. Im staying positive till they say different.
Cant think about how ,,why and who, its way too draining
Mate I can only imagine what you're going thru and wouldn't pretend otherwise , but the whole community is with you 100% and if there's anything any of us can do just ask , even if it's just a chat or somewhere to vent your spleen , I can tell you that talking helps .
Well I broke down this morning, because this new blue Staffy reminded me so much of my son David.
He has a gift when it comes to dogs, my wife saw me crying and I ended up telling her that 2 ppl will
be charged at the end of the month. they have no idea where David is at this stage. This has been the
worst day of my life,,,,so far. Maybe the pup can comfort Lily a bit I hope so.
Hopefully the new pup will be the distraction you both need TD .
I cant hold the pup without crying, its so much like Davids dog Tyson, Lily even called this one Tyler,Quote:
Originally Posted by GQtdauto
We will get closure soon I hope as this is killing all three of us, I have a very strong bond now ,stronger
than ever now, He knows he is apart of all this shite and is hurting like Lily and myself.
Geez I wonder where the wombat name came from , TD that dog is a good match for one of our cats , love to watch it squeezing in and out of the cat door because it looks like the side of the house giving birth .
Love you, 3D, and love to all.
Nuff said.
Take care out there.
Rossco
any update on your son yet, depression is a hideous diseaseQuote:
Originally Posted by my third 256
thoughts with you at this time........
I'm normally a private person, but I believe I know why I got so many tattoos in a short amount of time.
I know I've been jovial about getting them, but the real reason I got them is because of depression.
My tattoo artist - is male - and is bright, bubbly and good to be around. That's why I kept going back.
As some people will know, tattoos is certain locations, cane to the max. I knew that it was only short term pain, so I persevered.
Having said that, I don't regret getting one tattoo.
Tattoos were my stress relief.
My wife has a permanent disability and will never work as a nurse or vollie ambo, ever again. She has excellent skills, which she now can't use.
Money is not the issue. It's been the stress of me doing shift work, house work, garden work and her permanent disability.
My wife is on permanent medication and feels pain, quite often.
Going off road with her, is now out of the question. I do enjoy solo camping, but I do enjoy going camping with the wife.
Her train of thought and energy has now gone towards helping baby kangaroos, whose parent is no longer with us.
Like many of you, I live day by day.
Today has enough challenges without worrying about tomorrow.
I am not ashamed to tell you all that I have sought, and will continue to seek, professional help in dealing with this issue - depression.
Take care, God bless, and I love you all - unconditionally.
Rossco
Brilliant Rossco , that takes guts and helps to get it out , had a work injury that was complicated by CRPS which ended my working career and started the roller coaster ride your on and part of .
The tattoo thing believe it or not is common both with pain sufferers and their partners , probably for the reasons you have outlined .
I've done a few stints in a pain program both three weeks full time as an inpatient of Wodonga Hospital and now I'm slowly getting back together , was a member in a pain forum for years and have heard and seen things tragic and amazing .
I guess what I'm trying to say is I admire you're courage and dedication it's not easy to do what you do and that's something learned from experience.
Robert
Thanks, Robert.Quote:
Originally Posted by GQtdauto
Even talking about it, I believe, plays an important role in the healing process.
Rossco
Time for another camp out mateQuote:
Originally Posted by DX grunt
Dude first time with a shrink I spent 15 minutes crying like a baby , I mean a grown man for christs sake , but that attitude and wrong medication for the pain didn't help my cause , and must admit the shrink did help me .
Talking with people in the same similar circumstances can be a saviour too .
Absolutely.Quote:
Originally Posted by Clunk
Show us your.... tatts. lol.
I firmly believe, crying is part of the healing process.Quote:
Originally Posted by GQtdauto
When I got divorced, with 4 young sons involved, I cried and cried and cried. It really did help.
My mistake was not getting professional help for me and then my kids, then all of us as a whole.
Rossco
Been there done that .
Mate, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your loved ones - and of course, your son.Quote:
Originally Posted by my third 256
I believe there are a lot of members on here that are thinking about you, and others, and their circumstances, but don't have words to express their true feelings, 'on paper'.
I firmly believe most forum members love and care and respect all of you.
To all of you reading the depression thread. I have unconditional love to all of you.....warts and all.
We all have warts and all.
Take care out there.
Rossco.
he has been to a sycolegist a couple of times and is getting tothe root of the problemQuote:
Originally Posted by threedogs
also part is he is very home sick so we booked a ticket for him to come home for easter and a few more days
and one on one days with mum
he is the most inportant one at the moment so daughter will be my side cick