threedogs (5th February 2013)
Only have 2 BFFs but know a hell of a lot of people. maybe its just a sign of the shittey nanny world we live in.
How I'd love to be able to see how my dad grew up. Car windows left down unlocked in the street, no drug problem like now
only had to worry if uncle bob drank too much,those were the days my friend,It's sad they ended.
04 ST 3lt auto, not enough Mods to keep me happy, but getting there
BigRAWesty (1st February 2013)
Thus why I miss the farm so dam much. You still can leave your cars unlocked, ride bikes when your young, drive when your 10, shoot stuff for fun...
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Cheers
Kallen Westbrook
BloodyAussie, you are not alone mate, that bloody black cloud gets around.
I worked all my professional life in mental health services, & reckon I have a pretty good insight into depression, it's causes & what folks find helpful in dealing with it ...... But this didn't help a jot when we got back from our round Oz trip a few years back. I sank into depression, thought about death a lot, although never seriously considered topping myself. I just never felt happy, never enjoyed previously enjoyable things, but smiled a lot trying to put on a 'brave face'. Even now if I don't have something to keep me occupied the negative thoughts & anxieties return. First thing in the morning between waking & getting up is usually the worst. I lay there 'catastrophising'. Getting up seems to help, as does physical exercise. I continue to look forward to the day we can set off on more permanent travel, everything else is just filling in time. Well not exactly, but that's how it feels at times when I get a bit down. At other times I recognise that we are slowly working towards making it possible, and this allows me to enjoy the present a bit more. Might sound like not much, but one of the best things where we live is the abundance & variety of bird life. It's one of the things that I generally find it easier to recognise & enjoy.
Whatever your demons are try not to let them boss you around, & whenever possible give'em a good kicking by recognising that you are enjoying something you are doing. I give myself the same advice & sometimes manage to follow it.
With regard to going to see a doctor or any other professional SHOP AROUND! Their professional discipline (background) is far less important than finding someone with whom you 'click' & can trust. Different professionals 'fit' for different people. When I worked as a therapist some folk reckoned I was the best thing since sliced bread, & others thought me a waste of space. Just depended whether or not my 'style' fitted with their world view.
Best wishes,
Cuppa
EDIT: I also meant to say that I really liked Mojo01's tappet analogy, & that it can take a huge amount of courage to lift the rocker cover 'cos we fear the worst about what we'll find. There is plenty of evidence in this thread already that we have a few rocker cover lifters here who summoned up the courage & didn't regret it.
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Great post Cuppa! I empathise with your situation, I haven't worked in the field but after a couple of go-arounds with the black dog and lots of time spent dissecting and trying to understand the illness, I thought I was fairly well insulated... but no, it got me again.
Exercise is working well for me now.
BloodyAussie, my recommendation is to avoid alcohol, it can only make things worse. Surprisingly difficult to achieve in our drinking culture, though, so maybe just a few ground rules rather than total abstinence is more feasible. Rule 1 should probably be no drinking at home by yourself.
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AB (1st February 2013), MudRunnerTD (1st February 2013)
I take my hat off to you, Bloodyaussie, for bringing this to the fore.
Many years back we had lots of problems on the home front, a couple of our sons were out of control. The pressure and worry began to take its toll on both my wife & I. I began to sink into the worst state of depression, it effected my whole life, work family and friends.
By pure accident I met a man who owned a personal growth & development business. This man took me under his wing and spent a lot of time with me. It took a while for me to feel comfortable around him and the people he employed.
He taught me different ways to deal with situations and depression, and most importantly was how to recognise it, and how to get on top of it before it got to me again. IT was damm hard, but with his help and guidence I made it.
Today, I would be lying if I said I never get depressed. I do, however I am aware when it starts to happen, and are able to pull myself up and away from it.
Head up mate, as other have said, there are options available, doctors, some suburbs do have clinics that come under the health services scheme, that people can attend and often a minimal charge.
Regards and again, thanks for sharing.
MudRunnerTD (1st February 2013), PMC (2nd February 2013)
Nissanpatrol.com.au hats off to you.
To the 30odd people that have responded so far - thank you
BA the strongest man in the room is the man that faces his demons head on. The better man is the man who asks for help and takes it when it's offered.
The character of the man is seen in the man who offers help to a friend without obligation or reward.
On a Bloody car forum on the Internet we have such men.
Goes to the character and foundation of this forum. Nice one.
Johnathan, your a good man, your well liked here and always welcome at my campfire bud. I also make kick arse coffee at my home in Lara.
On behalf of the other 250 members that have viewed this page who likely clicked on the title because in their own place they battle that demon thanks for opening the door. The 3 pages of advice will be read by those 250 in silence and they will receive the same level of support in silence. Maybe a few of them will reach out for help silently.
Thanks for being that stronger and better man.
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Hi Bloodyaussie!
One of my friends is a doctor. Once he said an interesting thing:
"Life is a great thing if you take right antidepressants."
Its not important - mud racing, hunting, fishing etc until it can hurts you and your relatives, but gives you pleasure, it will save you from depression for a long time.
Be health and chin up!
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threedogs (5th February 2013)
This should cheer anyone up West Indies all out for 70, feel the BROVE
04 ST 3lt auto, not enough Mods to keep me happy, but getting there
BigRAWesty (1st February 2013), DX grunt (1st February 2013)
Thanks Darren......
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