Looking for ideas.....proposal

Hey all, sorry I don't get much of a chance to contribute to this forum as often as I'd like to. Anyway I've got a slight dilemma. I'm planning to ask my girlfriend to marry me. I'm not entirely stuck for romantic ideas but I just want to ask for your feedback on my ideas or offer some of your own. I want to make her feel like the most special woman in the world & I don't want to do it only to think of something later that I could have done better.

We live in Perth. Budget isn't important $500-2000 depending on whether its a night out with limo, night at a hotel or if we go away for a weekend. I have a boat but she gets motion sickness so a river cruise is out. She's a difficult customer because she hates surprises to the point where she'll refuse to go until she knows where I'm taking her. She knows I'm thinking about doing this but she doesn't know when. She likes Kings Park but I kind of feel that's a little cliche'.

We do have a favorite restaurant. She can be fussy & I know she'd probably want to choose her own ring which makes things harder. She does have a ring I gave her which I could offer to get cleaned & then use that to ask her to marry me. But then I thought of presenting her with a gift voucher from a jeweler, which can open up a lot of unique ways of proposing. Please be specific with suggestions. The options are endless. Here are some of my ideas so far:

*Taxi to dinner, Limo from dinner to kings park & then home or movie or something.
*After a relaxing afternoon go to restaurant, get down on one knee & present her ring or a 20c vending machine ring in a plastic ball with the gift voucher inside.
*Print up a clever fake cocktail menu that has a drink called 'will you marry me' & slip it inside the drinks menu at a restaurant, along with the ring gift voucher. The ingredients of every drink could have some random ingredient like love, devotion, commitment, intimacy, diamond, gold, etc etc

How ever you decide, just do something she likes. Not what you think she likes..
I have no comment as my hubby doesnt have a romantic bone in his body.

I dont think anyone can answer for you. You are the only one that knows what will make her happy.. Posh restaurant or picnic by the river ? The big banner at a live event or her favorite website ? No corny jokes and good luck..

take her to rotto and whew her....write in in sand....some oysters and a candle(lit of course)...be warned you may have to marry her where you proposed....so don't make it to fancy cause you'll have to top it soon..lol
I took my misses to the shop and we picked the ring together..
then the fun began...for 3 days I went out for brekkie,lunch and tea...
and for every one of them meals she got dolled up,expecting me to pop the question,until I couldn't bear it and hit her with the question....




if you hand her a 20c vending machine(with voucher)you may be dead before she find voucher....women can be touchy some times

The more you spoil her, the more you make her feel special the more she will expect it when you marry.
Give her nothing and just be yourself.
Worked wonders for me.:)


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I took my wife to Thailand to ask her. Do that ha ha

What if she says no?

That's what mine did when I asked her 40 odd years ago; just because she reckoned I had had a few too many to drink. Mind you she did say yes eventually and we are still married.

If your going to ask her to marry you, you should know where what and how is going to work because you know her; don't you?

IMHO if she has as many foibles as you describe perhaps you should wait a while longer before you commit.
No matter what anyone has said to you what you see is what you and she are stuck with neither you nor she will change much in the future. If in doubt wait a while longer.

Good luck anyhow
Chimo

Follow your heart mate, that way you'll make the right decision for both of you.

All I did was take the missus to the first restaurant that we went to together, gave the ring to our waiter to bring out with desert. I didnt have to saya word ....... evryone in the restaurant have us a cheer and our meal was discounted too, which was a bonus

20 years and still not married........ Clunky you softy romantic you!!!!!

sit her on the lounge get on ya knee and ask her that's how I done it and my wife loves me to death.

I proposed to my wife on top of a rock formation, with a bottle of non-alcoholic wine.

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20 years and still not married........ Clunky you softy romantic you!!!!!

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Shhh dont tell everyone lol..........

been together 12 years, engaged 7 years ago and still not married [emoji8]

We’d been living together for a year. Laying in bed I said “We’ve been living together for a year, might as well get married, whaddaya reckon”. Amazingly she said yes. That was 33 years ago & we love each other more now than we did back then.

How about sky writing?

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How about sky writing?

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I thought about that too. Or a banner towed behind an aeroplane.

Rossco

Cheers for the comments guys.

At this point I should probably mention that I was married once before.......for 10yrs. I was only 20 at the time but after 12 yrs together she decided she wanted to live a different life. Sure both of us made mistakes but it didn't need to come to that & it taught me a few things. But yes at that age I was about as romantic as a dead stick. Sure I loved her but cars & mates took up too much of my time. We ended up having 2 beautiful children which I now have 50% custody of. But I always thought if I ever got a chance to do it again I'd do it better. My girlfriend isn't all about money & I know she doesn't expect anything. It's more me that wants to do it fancy. I've worked hard to get where I am so I can. I've got this thought in my head that I want to blow her away. She's already indicated she'd say yes if I asked her so that isn't a problem, not that it will make me less nervous lol. She doesn't want a fancy wedding but I do. I'm not worried about that though because I know the right people ie photographers, cake makers, florists, card makers, caterers, all types of car enthusiasts, etc. I don't know any jewelers or bridal folk though. I'm probably overthinking this at the moment.

I thought about taking her out on the boat fishing which could then involve a meal as our favorite restaurant is on the water & has a mooring dock. I could then do sky writing or the banner. So many options here hahaha

I think I'm going to offer to (insist on) get her ring cleaned & use that to propose. Once I choose a restaurant I'll speak to staff & see if I can get a copy of the cocktail menu, scan it & modify it to suit the purpose. We'll catch a taxi with the excuse that we can both drink & then from the restaurant I'll have a limo waiting which will take us to Kings Park & there I'll get down on one knee, say something nice & present her with her ring. On the way back to the limo I'll make sure she conveniently stumbles across an envelope with her name on it & inside will be the voucher for her to choose her ring. From there the limo can take us home or wherever we want to go next.

I've had so many ideas.

She loves taking the motorbikes out. I have become reasonably good at getting ahead of her, darting off into the bush & hiding until she rides past & then I catch up & overtake her. I'd have to orchestrate this right so I don't cover her in dust or rocks but what if I did this but as I'm hiding I quickly tie a banner to myself that she will see as I overtake her?

I could rig the sun visor in her car or mine with the question on it but that leaves the timing of her finding it as unpredictable. There are so many ways. I think you get more brownie points if you come up with something original which is why I'm looking for ideas or things that will trigger ideas for me. I'm not actually looking to copy what someone else has done.

overly complicated and prone to disaster...............

I know from the sounds of it YOU want something special, but be guided by your missus - if she's not into much fuss - dont make it a fuss
go out for tea, ask her, and tell her you will be wanting to go ring shopping soon, dont give her a 20c ring or ANYthing,
just ask, and if she says yes - then plan together on a ring shopping day



I just asked my missus while watching TV

"what are you doing for the rest of your life, do you want to be with me.......?"
she said yes
30yrs married in Nov, known her for 34 yrs.........

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I just asked my missus while watching TV

"what are you doing for the rest of your life, do you want to be with me.......?"
she said yes

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Hahaha that's gold!! Cheers Col

Mate,

Like most here, I have been happily married for a very long time and we love each other more and more each day. Even after all these years, gazing on her still makes me weak at the knees and no one in the world can make me laugh like she does. My wife is also a strong personality and she asked me, which are some of things I love about her. I designed and had both her engagement and wedding rings made (a jeweller just off the Hay St mall), which was my way of "giving of myself" to her.

When we married, we didn't tell a soul. We're not into pavlova dresses and fretting about who sits where. We got married the day after my birthday and went down south for a week just soaking up the beautiful great southern of WA; giant trees, Margaret River, Albany etc.

Nowadays with our 22 year old son recently moved out (although rumour has it he may be back soon....) it's just going from strength to strength. I am the luckiest bloke in the world.

Probably doesn't help you but sometimes you don't need a big song and dance to communicate what you mean.

Don't do what i did

Fresh out of hospital with a chemical burn to my eardrum off my head on morphine still laying in bed and i say "can you make me a sandwich? And will you marry me? "

Sadly I won't be proposing to this girl after all. We had a fight recently & things went weird after that. I couldn't make sense of it & nothing she was saying was adding up so I decided to check it out only to discover she was sleeping at her ex's place. Now time to heal & move on.

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Sadly I won't be proposing to this girl after all. We had a fight recently & things went weird after that. I couldn't make sense of it & nothing she was saying was adding up so I decided to check it out only to discover she was sleeping at her ex's place. Now time to heal & move on.

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Holy shit mate...... not good.

God i got lucky.

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Sadly I won't be proposing to this girl after all. We had a fight recently & things went weird after that. I couldn't make sense of it & nothing she was saying was adding up so I decided to check it out only to discover she was sleeping at her ex's place. Now time to heal & move on.

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Blood hell... Sorry mate

Sorry mate but best to find out now I guess.

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Sadly I won't be proposing to this girl after all. We had a fight recently & things went weird after that. I couldn't make sense of it & nothing she was saying was adding up so I decided to check it out only to discover she was sleeping at her ex's place. Now time to heal & move on.

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Holly crap that's not cool. Sorry to hear

Fat out mate so sorry to hear this. She does not deserve someone like you. You are better off without her in your life.


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sorry to hear that mate, they can be bloody weird!!yes time to move on, enjoy the patrol and get out with a few mates

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Sadly I won't be proposing to this girl after all. We had a fight recently & things went weird after that. I couldn't make sense of it & nothing she was saying was adding up so I decided to check it out only to discover she was sleeping at her ex's place. Now time to heal & move on.

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sorry to hear mate but it would appear that you have just been handed a "get out of jail free" card........ never a nice thing to happen but better now than later on I guess.

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sorry to hear mate but it would appear that you have just been handed a "get out of jail free" card........ never a nice thing to happen but better now than later on I guess.

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As above mate, chin up!

I proposed to some muppet many years ago on a gondola ride in Venice, spent a fortune to only come back home 1 week afterwards to see her leaving with our dog and the engagement ring.

I kept her mums lawnmower though and treated it like shit until it died ;)

no good mate

but, as has been said,
better to have found out now - not in years to come

just be nice, and when she remembers why he was an Ex - just remind her that she has left

also, change your bank accounts, cancel your credit cards and get a Post Office box for your mail for a few months

you never never know...............