Depression

DonT know what to say but be careful with the Meds I know they joke about my meds and they are strong, but I only take as per whats on the packet
at the moment I'm taking less as I'm self weaning off them in preparation for my next OP, when ever that is. Don't drink while on heavy medication either
Stay sane talk to friends and family.

@ ET plenty here for you anytime you need to PM
condolences mate, bad time of year for some as my xmas thread suggested.

good to see you back Graham, cant say anymore than i have already.

Hell Westy that is not a good situation but you can turn it around, first thing is stay honest with the misses.
We all joke around here about keeping secrets from partners but honesty is definitely the best policy.
You still spending xmas in Adelaide? Happy still to meet for drinks, we can go someware that's byo or I am happy to shout you a few at the pub.
Hope you can still have a great Christmas.

Your write up here Westy is a good method for reflection and healing. It's tough times mate and it's all designed to test us and our relationships. You sound like a normal young bloke and will come out the other side of this being all the better for you experiences. Spend some quality time with your wife, ask for forgiveness and her help. Our partners are part of our successes.

Evil, mate, no doubt you have many fond memories......stay strong and reflect on all the good times.

All the best guys.....

Far out ET. I don't know what to say. I was only just thinking today I hadn't noticed you around after I'd seen someone with a similar avatar.......
Just don't know what to say. I can't imagine that happening to me, brings a tear to my eye just contemplating the thought. I hope the future for you is bright mate and some of the hurt passes in time. Good to see you back.

Hey Kallen, it might sound a bit harsh but I’m glad your missus found you out mate. Perhaps you are too? I’m even more glad that she only nearly walked out. What you have here is an opportunity. An opportunity to do things differently. An opportunity to recognise what is important for you & to make decisions that you are happy with. I guess you are ‘on notice’ now. If she nearly walked this time, there’s a pretty good chance she will on a third occasion. Others have already recognised that being in your position must feel like crap, some blokes in your position might just feel pissed off about being caught out & have no sense of remorse, only fear of losing more because of it. My gut feeling is that posting as you have you have recognised that you have not behaved well & feel the guilt associated with this. The trick now is to hold onto that guilt & let it become your driving force without letting it overwhelm you & push you into a hole of self pity. Talking to your missus, ‘hearing’ your missus express her anger & disappointment & recognising & valuing the ‘glue’ that holds you together are all essential.
Years ago during a rough patch in my marriage it took talking to a third party to help me recognise what I really valued in my wife. Seeking out a counsellor might help your situation. Hope you don’t think I’m overstepping the mark here, but sometimes I find it hard not to momentarily slip on my old therapist hat.

ET, your post affected me & I really feel for you, especially now at Christmas. Your strength in an impossible situation shines through & you are an inspiration. I have been married for 31 years & my wife is my whole world. What you have endured is my biggest fear. I sometimes wonder not how I would cope, but if I would cope, but your statement of intent to make 2014 a better year is a wonderful example to set.

To both of you, I pay respect to the courage you have displayed in making your respective posts.

Best wishes,
Cuppa

Yea cheers guys. She is my rock and I'm bloody lucky to have a gal like her.
As mentioned I'm seeking help to try curve my issues.
I'd love to make the middle but yea with this and my vein now it's just not possible.
Will meet ya all one day..

Stay safe guys, we are only a PM away

Westy,
Bloody tough to put it out there but well done on fronting up and Cuppa (as always) has some wise words well worthy of consideration.
Perhaps think about how you can do more with your business and help that fund the toys.

Very sorry to hear of your loss, Evil. I wish to convey my deepest sympathies to you.
Kallen, as Cuppa said, admitting you have a problem is the first and hardest step to take. It has taken a lot of courage to post like you have. It will take that courage to do what is required to keep your beautiful family intact as it should be. You can gain a lot of hope from the fact that your wife can see you have the strength of character to do just that. Best wishes for the holiday season and here's to a better year ahead. Cheers, mudnut.