You can't help but feel good when doing good in SE Asia. I've had some weird looks helping elderly locals in Vietnam, I guess its not what they expect a boofhead to do :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Cuppa
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You can't help but feel good when doing good in SE Asia. I've had some weird looks helping elderly locals in Vietnam, I guess its not what they expect a boofhead to do :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Cuppa
https://m.facebook.com/290611141314/...pe=1&source=48 This is Ben Quilty he is a painter and was asked by the ADF to head over to Afghanistan and paint the soldiers and what it's like over there. When he came back he has hung around a lot of the old diggers and has done a lot of paintings for the national gallery. He's a rockingham local and is family friends if my wife's parents. His parents spend a lot of time in SE Asia helping out orphans and building schools and the like. I thought I would post this up because it hits home about depression and how people deal with it. Please read what underneath under the painting Cheers Shane
This was uploaded from my mobile phone
Those kids in SE Asia will melt your heart......they sell a lot of trinkets in the bars over there, I enjoy the price haggle with them, get them as low as I can get, then shake on the deal and pay double the original price.Quote:
Originally Posted by 93patrol
well sad to say but another old work colleague from the mining days up north has taken his life yesterday and left behind very distraught children, he had split up with his wife some years ago and last i saw him he was struggling as you do but its very upsetting to once again have to attend a funeral of an old mate :(
So sorry to here mate. Suicide is one of the worst things to experience, so many in answered questions. All the best to those left behind.
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Very sorry to hear that, Stropp. They don't realise the long-lasting and sometimes devastating effect their action has on the people they leave behind.
yes every time it happens those who really need help still do not reach out.
Never nice to hear.
Thoughts with the family that's for sure.
The big problem here is it'll get swept under the carpet. The big businesses will blame his personal life.
When really the hours they push for is sometimes unrealistic and very hard to maintain.
Been tough of late dealing with all the issues of this year that seem to be compounding and getting very heavy on my chest.... does not help when some make idiotic comments and offer stupid advise that makes as much sense as an ashtray on a motorbike.
Yeah I have a sook but it is part of my coping method and the pom in me but its also out of shear frustration with the situation.
Something has to give as the strain is really starting to show on both my wife and myself.... f$£k this stupid car and f$%k the baggage associated with my mum........ going shooting tonight with some bloody good mates and hope that picks me up..!!!!
I seem to have given up on my years motto??
Keep pushing through the shit Johno.
As Dori would say "just keep swimming, swimming, swimming"
2014 has got to be one of the worst years for nearly everyone I know. Dearh, distruction, illness, unexpected expenses etc etc
And it's tough but having been to the depths of despair and back again I know you guys can get through it. I'm so glad to see how many of you share your darkness here - you need to let it out and learn to move on from it in a positive way which is b£#% hardest thing to learn
In the end I had a fantastic therapist who got me over the line. What he taught me, broken down to basics was : the past is gone, you can NOT change it, some things in your here & now you can't change because it just is what it is. Don't sweat the small stuff and recognise what you can't change and then don't sweat it (easy said - hard to learn & do) work through it but don't allow it to consume you.
Earlier in the year I MASSIVE financial issues & had no idea what I was going to do but I joined MYBUDGET and in the small amount of time from April to now my $$$ are sorted, I'm on a strict budget but every bill is paid on time & there's even a stock pile ready for xmas :)
Would highly recommend it as did friends of mine to me.
I wish everyone all the best and please don't give up on yourselves
xXx
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That would partly be my fault with the sell you Q to NN post, BA. Do you know how hard it is to be sitting here, isolated at my place, reading about you and other members having troubles? I can't be there to help you, which I would do in the blink of an eye.
Cheer up Jonno, things will get sorted in time mate...... and don't forget you and the tribe are always welcome over here if a break is ever needed and also so I can kick you in the nuts for being a dick :p:DQuote:
Originally Posted by Bloodyaussie
Yeah really sux with the run of luck with the bloody motor, but awesome job so far its so close now. If you ever need a hand more than happy to help, no expert but can do what I can.
Have a good trip we all need a refresher.
The years not over yet don't give up on that motto just yet, it will get there you deserve to enjoy it:)
hey mate, i know how hard it can be but as the others have said, keep pushing on mate and it does sound like you are so close with the patrol mate, keep plugging away and you will get there and as clunk says, always a bed over here in wa if you need a break.
Well. It looks like I am A) In BA's bad books.
B) He misunderstood my post which meant: I would come and give you a hand if it was possible.
C) In BA's bad books.
That is a big problem with posting on a forum, as it is easy to get the wrong end of the stick.
As I have posted on your build thread, Jonathan, I wouldn't have had the patience to do a conversion and work through all the problems you have encountered. You are so close to having the vehicle you deserve.
I have the bad habit of looking at the bad things and letting them get on top of me too. I need to learn to tackle all problems one step at a time. Heres's to a timely success.
Craig you are not in my bad books you paranoid nut.... could not be further from the truth mate !!!!!!
Cheers guys... waiting to head off shooting and keeping my mind busy with that has kept me from thinking about my car... until a few minutes ago I walked past it and my mind strayed back...blah!!!
Tonight should be very good therapy !!!!
Hence the name mudnut ...:1087:Quote:
Originally Posted by Bloodyaussie
Like rossco said mate you are doing an awesome job. It's easy to look at what's not going your way. However keep in mind how much you have learnt from this, not just mechanically, but how many people are willing to help a good bloke like yourself out. Also all the info you have now supplied to those who will tackle this in the future not just with the td42 but also the info that has come about with your petrol motor as well.
Enjoy your weekend mate and remember there are plenty of us willing to help. You have my number bloke don't be scared to use it.
You've become emotional now that you're a father ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by nissannewby
Haha. Your going the right way for a slap you hot pant wearing girly man :pQuote:
Originally Posted by AB
That's better...Quote:
Originally Posted by nissannewby
Look after yourselves blokes!
You've changed man...Quote:
Originally Posted by nissannewby
Mate I have not wanted to bother you at this stage as you have a bit going on...Quote:
Originally Posted by nissannewby
Last night was a highlight and has helped heaps. .. cannot wait to get out again.
Constantly getting called a winger mostly in jest but some that are nasty about it.... getting sick of it !!!!!
I grew up dirt poor and in the worst parts of this country with guns stabbings people beaten to death robbery drugs ...... I am proud that I made it through all that and have 2 brilliant kids and the most loving wife..
Yes i carry on but it far better than where I was heading before I met Mags.... so back off and dont tell me to take it easy princess !!!!!
Who was it, let me at 'em!
more dribble... and you say im bad?Quote:
Originally Posted by Bloodyaussie
but in all seriousness, your a top bloke and you have done well for yourself, i mean you are punching way above your weight with your missus, your kids are super cool and you are ok yourself. keep on keeping on mate, its people like you who give me motivation to get outta bed in the morning =D
Hope it wasn't me, don't think I have given you a hard time on here in a while as I have seen how much shit you are going through.Quote:
Originally Posted by Bloodyaussie
I would hope nobody on here would mean to be nasty with comments, this place should always be friendly.
I just read how you have your car going again which is great news, had not looked on your Patrol thread for a while as I am mechanically challenged so had nothing to offer except stupid comments and it became obvious that your thread needed to be kept to serious advise on how to sort the problems.
Keep smiling and ignore the unwanted comments if you can.
Sounds like someone shoulda got a LoKKa
Mate after all you and your family have been through this year and you are still able to get up every morning and put a smile on your face, is a credit to your character and the kind of person you are a lot of other ppl would not be still standing as tall as you.Quote:
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Just a reminder for anyone who's in the golden west that the Western Patrol Club have a guest speaker from Beyond Blue at their meeting tonight. Christmas (and the run up to it) are some of the toughest times of the year for people who suffer from depression (speaking from personal experience as well as what the stats apparently say), I'm not sure what tonight's talk is going to cover - but if it even helps 1 person by 1% then it's been a worthwhile exercise.
Meeting is at 7:00 at Belmont Sports & Rec Club, corner of Abernethy Rd and Keane St. Get there early so that we can all talk crap in the car park.
It is now 18 years since I sustained my work related injury (upper spinal injury). 15 years ago I was sacked because of the injury and other health issues brought on by the situation.
After an initial phase, I made the decision not to fight for workers comp as I witnessed the devastating effect the system had on a co-worker and his family. He eventually won his case, but the price he paid, in my opinion was far too great. I was also in a bad state of mind then as well.
I am so very blessed to still have my family after all I have put them through.
I know many spouses would have been unable to stay, in such terrible circumstances and I am taking this opportunity to to thank my loving wife.
There are so many of you that are battling far worse things than me. Please believe me that my thoughts are with you and I wish you all the best in turning your struggle into victory.
This forum has been an absolute godsend, as all the friends I have made in this area have been forced to move away because of lack of employment or failing health. I have met so many good people here and the forum has kick started a new social life, albeit an electronic one.
@ MN I completely understand the heart ache and frustration an injury can have not only on your self but your wife and children as well.
My youngest son is having his first fight tomorrow and I have not lifted him up once as a baby and that plays on my mind a lot.
Not going to try it now the bugger weighs in at 93kg lol.
For those with an injury feel free to PM as often as you like I've been going through this shite since Sept 18 1991.
I still feel let down by the system, and as some of you know you are only a number.
Not once has any one from the insurance Co rang and said "How are you today John can we do anything to help"
Yeah right thats gunna happen, No point whinging cause after so long it all falls on deaf ears, none of your mates call any more etc.
I've always been a loner so it looks like it will stay that way.
As for the back I'm putting up with it until I can see the surgeon about what we can do next if nothing I will be devastated, but
I'll cross that bridge when I get to it, rant over for now but better for it
I could rage for a long time about the system and how it degrades the injured worker. The insurance companies have a duty of care, but they are in the business to make a profit.
Feel a bit better today after a co-worker died at work Thursday. I've till got his dead eyes in my head whenever I think about what happened. Will be chatting to a councillor Monday I think
Don't think about it mate, do itQuote:
Originally Posted by growler2058
As doggy said, just do it, talking helps.
Chin up growler.
Talking to a counsellor or even a mate is the best help you can get mate. And not to mention we are here as well.
Same goes for everyone on here
With all the crap going on with my back and being shafted, treated like dirt from the employer and insurance, not making things easy or pleasant at the moment as it looks like I will be out of a job and also lose the patrol.
To top it off, my ex father in law (we were both very close regardless of splitting up with his daughter 14yrs ago), was given 2-3 months left due to a rapid cancer, passed away 24hrs later, just after lunch today, has not made things any easier.
Have never met a more kind or steadfast man (besides my own pop before he passed) who was my sons inspiration and rock to take up soccer.
As others have said, everyone at some point, needs an ear to bend or shoulder to lean upon, for those who are unsure, take that 1st step as the following steps become easier to cope over time.