Cheers,
Evo
Yes, pain can gnaw away at your being. There are times it takes over, but having time with your youngster is precious, and a great reason to battle on. Remember, he sees life through young eyes and you can help him see the best of it what it offers.
My advice is: not to follow my advice.
take care gents. Dont let that Black Dog in the back door he can stay out side. Bloody thing makes a mess everywhere... Plenty of guys here that will let you lean on them gents. Any time. If you need to get away just post a thread and tell us where you want to go and someone will likely be keen for a drive.
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The only good thing about an 80 series is..... the front end?? Wrong!!, the Engine?? Wrong!! the Full Time 4WD system?? Wrong!! Its the NissanPatrol.com.au stubby holder fitted over the transfer lever.
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Best I can say is keep venting on here, try and get involved in some of the forum trips if you can.
All the meet up trips I have been involved in have been very family orientated.
In fact it’s all about families having a good time and anyone is always welcome.
This is why this forum is a winner mate
Get involved or just vent... all good
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Evo (13th February 2018), GQtdauto (9th February 2018), growler2058 (10th February 2018)
An offer!
In my other life I am a Master Practitioner of NLP, Neuro Linguistic Programming. (a life coach)
I am past the point of angling for money.
If any member of this forum would like to talk with me, just send me a pm and we can set up a time to talk 'live'.
No Cost!!!!!!
I have received so much free advice, I am prepared to give some of what I know to you.
As I lay there looking up, taking in the spectacular view that was the night sky and the multitude of stars I asked myself, where did my tent go?
4bye4 (13th February 2018), Avo (9th February 2018), DX grunt (10th February 2018), Evo (13th February 2018), GQtdauto (9th February 2018), growler2058 (10th February 2018), MB (9th February 2018), mudnut (10th February 2018), MudRunnerTD (10th February 2018), Touses (10th February 2018), Woof (10th February 2018)
Personally suffered very debilitating anxiety in my late 20’s early 30’s and eventually/thankfully found a Cognitive Therapy Doc with 6 free sessions from a government grant were the tools learnt/clicked I needed to get up off the shower floor again. Does occasionally try to sneak back at me sometimes in high pressure situations but the whiteboard training memories from the Doc help me cut off the freight train now before it leaves the station so to speak. May not be for everybody mate but I am sure glad I gave it a go for me and forever thank that one specific Doc that worked out my noggin so well and tailored my lessons in a language little old me could understand.
Take care brothers & sisters we are all in this together!
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Evo (13th February 2018), growler2058 (10th February 2018), mudnut (10th February 2018), Winnie (10th February 2018)
the train leaving the station mate.....never been diagnosed with depression but do find myself down sometimes..i these as trigger points.....knowing what can cause everything to go shit is important...whether it is thought's or what somebody said....I know I had some hard times and this forum helped heaps.....some really good people here...even better listeners
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Well said @MB and @Avo , it can be mind over matter and learning how to distract yourself but knowing you have a problem (with depression) and recognising it then accepting it and getting help can be a very long bumpy road if you don't have the right road map .
I reckon depression is a journey not a destination.
I don't know if it's all just from pain and inability to do what I want, to go back to work, or all the places and people I've seen that have not been able to help.
Have been pushed from pillar to post...
Neurosurgeon, orthopaedic surgeon, pain management, rehab management, occupational therapy, physiotherapy, job counselling, psychologist, psychiatrist. Probably others in there too.
Then the meds... Anti-depressants, 3 types and dosages of pain meds, nerve blockers, 2 types of sleeping meds, have had 2 epidural injections, and then some.
I was 25 when this all started, just moved into our house 3 years before, things were going good, planning wise and financially.
Now it just seems like... I don't have the word for it.
Every dollar is accounted for, the missus does a budget each month to make sure we can get by and maybe put a few dollars away for saving.
And just when you think you may just get ahead, even by the smallest margin, something always happens.
We make sure the mortgage is paid first, then whatever the little man needs, then bills.
Whatever is left has to cover everything else, fuel, etc.
We once had to go out grocery shopping with just $12.
No outside help, we manage by ourselves.
She's the bread winner, I'm just, I don't know what you would call me...
It kills me to not be able to give the missus and my little fella whatever they want like years ago.
My mind is always going, always thinking, about tomorrow, and the next day.
What if X happens, will we manage to cover Y?
What if?
How?
When?
And if it all.goes to s#!+ tomorrow, then what?
Like you have all said, not easy...
It's not easy, but why do I feel that this is my cross to bear? That I have to do this on my own? Is it because I have always relied on myself? Always done things on my own? Don't trust enough?
Don't know.
These words are pretty spot on.
I walk a lonely road
The only one that I have ever known
Don't know where it goes
But it's only me, and I walk alone
I walk this empty street
On the boulevard of broken dreams
Where the city sleeps
And I'm the only one, and I walk alone
My shadow's the only one that walks beside me
My shallow heart's the only thing that's beating
Sometimes I wish someone out there will find me
Till then I walk alone
I'm walking down the line
That divides me somewhere in my mind
On the border line of the edge
And where I walk alone
Read between the lines
What's fucked up and every thing's all right
Check my vital signs to know I'm still alive
And I walk alone
My shadow's the only one that walks beside me
My shallow heart's the only thing that's beating
Sometimes I wish someone out there will find me
Till then I walk alone
I walk this empty street
On the boulevard of broken dreams
Where the city sleeps
And I'm the only one, and I walk alone
My shadow's the only one that walks beside me
My shallow heart's the only thing that's beating
Sometimes I wish someone out there will find me
Till then I walk alone...
We’re never alone Evo mate :-) Please do drop any of us a line anytime , especially Mc4by and his kind offer. For me it was the ‘What If’ language in my head that set the wheels in motion. In regards surgery, definitely worth asking around a local retirement village, our seniors really know their top local docs and can point us in the right direction no doubt mate!
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