Why is RLI Banned?

[jack]

Hello,

Firstly don't shoot the messenger

Finally got to speak with Paul but these comments are from me NOT him, Pauls direct message is at the end.

I think some valid concerns have been raised that effect several members and some of the responses to these concerns are way over the top. Pictures of cement bags, panties in a knot, get over it, teenage girl comments etc. don't always go down that well with people who may be in a fragile state.
You just need to read the Depression thread to see that not every person is in the right place all the time. This type of response may be just enough to push someone over the edge. I've always enjoyed this place and it's been a great forum and an escape from some of the issues I'm going through myself. The last six months have been tough, a young 20 year old died in a car accident 20 meters from my back door was tough seeing that and not being able to assist at 1am. Two months ago we lost our granddaughter at 24 weeks. This week my sister has gone into palliative care with inoperable cancer.
Unfortunately it's no longer fun here but I've met some wonderful people and really enjoyed it, I'm not going (unless I get banned) but will step back a bit and see how it goes. Guess it also depends on how many responses I get to 'grow a set', 'toughen up' or a 'picture of a bag of cement'.

Mods feel free to close this if you wish, some will probably comment somewhere else anyway.

OK direct note from Paul


To all forum members,

I am trying to leave this great forum with dignity and respect to all members. I am totally

shocked that that I have been Banned for trying to delete my own personal information.

I have asked several times to a moderator on the forum to delete all my posts and threads. To

date this has not occurred. I have even sent a phone message to AB today for his assistance

and to date I have not been contacted.

I have had a fantastic two years with you folks, all I did was to bring a matter to the attention

of forum members because some forum members were leaving due to circumstances that I

believe could have been fixed with the proper communications.

I cannot believe how this situation has unfolded, I have not had one PM or phone inquiry to

what is going on from any of the forum moderators. I am disappointed that I have not been

personally contacted.

Folks, all I want to do, is to leave and get on with my life. I have made some tremendous

friendships and I intend to keep in contact with those people. I would just like my wishes be

respected and all my information deleted. (Is that too much to ask for?)

PS, I wish you all the best in life and I hope that you are successful in whatever endeavor

that you all decide to pursue in life!

Kind regards,

Paul

[Stropp]

thanks for passing on the info mate can you pm me his email address if thats ok with him, i did have his phone number but has been lost due to swapping phones.

[mudski]

Sincere apologies to AB and Paul if my comments have upset you. the mods can delete my post if need be. I just dont see the need for any of this.
Paul you are a great bloke and I am honered to have met you. I do wish you would come back some day. Also to others who have left this great place.

Mark.

[NissanGQ4.2]

OK direct note from Paul


To all forum members,

I am trying to leave this great forum with dignity and respect to all members. I am totally

shocked that that I have been Banned for trying to delete my own personal information.

So deleting most of your posts is leaving with dignity and respect to all members? Why are you shocked at been banned if you are removing all your post?

OK direct note from Paul

I have asked several times to a moderator on the forum to delete all my posts and threads. To

date this has not occurred.

I don't know which moderator you have asked but you were asking the wrong person, Andy is the only one that can approve all posts / threads deletion started by an individual. Deleting all threads / posts by a member is not ever likely to be approved anyway as it destroys the content of the forum.

OK direct note from Paul,

I have even sent a phone message to AB today for his assistance

and to date I have not been contacted.

Seriously.......... he is not even home from work and you want a reply!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

OK direct note from Paul,

I have had a fantastic two years with you folks, all I did was to bring a matter to the attention

of forum members because some forum members were leaving due to circumstances that I

believe could have been fixed with the proper communications.

I cannot believe how this situation has unfolded, I have not had one PM or phone inquiry to

what is going on from any of the forum moderators. I am disappointed that I have not been

personally contacted.

Folks, all I want to do, is to leave and get on with my life. I have made some tremendous

friendships and I intend to keep in contact with those people. I would just like my wishes be

respected and all my information deleted. (Is that too much to ask for?)

PS, I wish you all the best in life and I hope that you are successful in whatever endeavor

that you all decide to pursue in life!

Kind regards,

Paul

I really got nothing more 2 say, If you wanted to leave the forum with dignity you would of just simply logged out never to return

[Drewboyaus]

OK direct note from Paul


To all forum members,

I am trying to leave this great forum with dignity and respect to all members. I am totally shocked that that I have been Banned for trying to delete my own personal information.

I have asked several times to a moderator on the forum to delete all my posts and threads. To date this has not occurred. I have even sent a phone message to AB today for his assistance and to date I have not been contacted.

I have had a fantastic two years with you folks, all I did was to bring a matter to the attention I f forum members because some forum members were leaving due to circumstances that I believe could have been fixed with the proper communications.

I cannot believe how this situation has unfolded, I have not had one PM or phone inquiry to what is going on from any of the forum moderators. I am disappointed that I have not been personally contacted.

Folks, all I want to do, is to leave and get on with my life. I have made some tremendous friendships and I intend to keep in contact with those people. I would just like my wishes be respected and all my information deleted. (Is that too much to ask for?)

PS, I wish you all the best in life and I hope that you are successful in whatever endeavor that you all decide to pursue in life!

Kind regards,

Paul

It's a dead-set shame that it has come to this for Paul and others. Especially given the troubles he has had with his health. I feel disappointed that he feels let down by some of the members here.
My personal view however is that to delete posts and threads as if an individual were never here is to deny history. It appears petty and flies in the face of "leaving with dignity and respect". That is not a personal criticism of Paul by the way and having met him and read his story I am genuinely surprised he has wished to take that sort of action. Perhaps shows the depth of his disappointment in whatever went on.
TBH, I haven't read the terms of the forum but I imagine strictly speaking that any posts by members ultimately remain with the forum ownership. It is the way of the digital and online world.

Edit: Snap Toddie.

[my third 256]

so why do you keep going on about all this stuff cant we all let it go
leave him in peace its his choice let it go

[Timbo]

I think if you're going to leave, do it quietly and honorably. I don't see the need to create multiple threads about leaving, threatening to leave, "what's wrong with the forum and that's why I'm leaving" and legal threats. The forum obviously means a lot more to some people than others, and I think those that are truly invested in it make the biggest noise when something has upset them. Everyone on this forum is on a level playing field. No-one is better than anyone else. The moderators donate their own time for free to keep the forum in tip-top shape. They are no better than anyone else. AB is the forum owner, he is no better than anyone else. So I really don't understand some of the righteousness I've seen in the last year with some people, I really don't. I've seen bullying on here, even though "good ol' Aussie Bloke" on here simply calls is jesting or a laugh. We've just had a female celebrity take her life due to online bullying. Granted, I'm sure she received far worse than will ever be here, but, all trees grow from a seed. I've seen physical violence threatened on here.

So, in closing -everyone.. let's just chill out, take a breathe and be sensible. Nothing is "going on".. there is nothing sinister at play. There's been a few misunderstandings in communication. Text is very hard to convey your true feelings and people read it how they read it. Let's just relax.

[Bloodyaussie]

I miss you Tim!!!!!!

[FNQGU]

Paul, your posts are valuable to all, please don't delete them. I fully respect your wishes to want to leave the forum, but please leave your legacy, your stories, and the knowledge you imparted. I hope your health comes good, and would love to meet you if the 2015 Cape Trip comes around.

AB and the Mods - totally agree with your positions on this. Respectfully suggest we all move on...

[Woof]

I am that Moderator, I was in touch with Paul 2 days ago..............No further comments are required